The reason I didn't have any milk this morning was because I'm a single mom. When we got home last night from Karate I realized we didn't have any milk but I didn't have someone else in the home to watch my daughter while I ran out for a few minutes and she was not "open" to the suggestion that we return the car again and go ourselves. Anyone who has a young child understands that when they get in that mood, there is no going back.
I'm not complaining per sey--I actually chose the life of a single mom willingly about a year ago when I adopted my daughter as a single person. I know what you're thinking right now, "Is she crazy?" More than likely in other areas but not regarding adopting a child. This is something I have thought about doing for many, many years and when Elizabeth was presented to me, I knew this was right.
I pretty much knew what I as getting into thanks to my seemingly hundreds of other single (and formally single) mom friends who became single moms through having a child outside of marriage, through divorce, or by losing a spouse. They have been my inspiration. My friend, Laurie, is the most amazing single mom I've ever seen--she's managed to raise her two children on her own with practically no help from anyone, buy a house pre-market meltdown, juggle a job or two, and put herself through college. And she makes it look easy and has a great sense of humor about it no matter what happens.
I'm sure there are many single moms out there that are equally as brilliant at juggling things but most of us are just trying to get through the end of the day with milk in the fridge. So, this blog is dedicated to all single moms: I want to hear from you--what your frustrations are, what resources you've found that'll help all of us, funny stories, etc. I want you to feel free to speak your mind (there is a point in crying over spilt--or missing--milk and sometimes it's just to vent and get it out of our systems!)
Have a great super mom day--now I'm off to Costco to get some milk. :)
KJ
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Oh, Kathy. This is too funny a story. Even though I'm not a "single" mom, I'm a mom to 5 and I love other "mom" stories. I look forward to reading more soon.
I am so glad I found your blogs. I have been a single parent prcatically sice conception and it has been an interesting ride. My daughter just turned 4 last month and it's amazing how much she has grown! I put myself through school, with the help of a grant from Washington Women in Need, and now am successful at what I do. I have always wanted to be a foster parent and I was going to be when I got married. Since that didn't happen and I was a new mom I put that dream on the back burner. I had always been told you had to be married, among other things to be a foster parent, which I found out 2 days ago that I don't have to be. I am so excited to start the process to become a foster parent.
Carol,
Thanks for your e-mail and I applaud you for doing such a great job under difficult circumstances! To put yourself through school and raise a child on your own is nothing short of miraculous!
You're right, you don't have to be married to be a foster or adoptive parent and there are many benefits as well to the foster parent--they give you a monthly payment to help cover costs and if you adopt the child, medicaid for the child even after adoption, and currently under Florida law the child gets full college tuition to any Florida school. Pretty cool!
Keep up the fight!
Kathy
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